Flames take over my organs as the static makes love to a spark. These thoughts act like waves of gasoline, touching the shore of my mind and refusing to let the fire die. My heart attempts to climb out of my chest, my faithful lungs desperately trying to keep up. White noise behind my voice, static. My eyes wide open but seeing nothing. This is it, this is how I’m going to die. Everything hurts, I didn’t even notice how hard my jaw was clenched until I tried to open my mouth to scream. Let it go. Breathe, just keep breathing.
My conscious drifts off to sleep, defeated by the attack. During my rest I am free though. The thoughts are muted, the pain in my chest has dulled, and I can breathe. Oh sweet slumber, wrap me in your protecting arms and keep me safe for a few more hours. The release only lasts a few minutes and I’m at war again. Coaching myself to keep breathing. Reminding myself that these thoughts are not being honest and I know the truth. Damn these lungs! Just give up already. The cycle starts again, hello sleep.
I am fucking exhausted.
I have a confession: Today I hated my girlfriend. I found a ledge and I had to talk myself down from it all day. My only moments of peace came when I fell asleep and they barely lasted half an hour each time. I had every right to hate her, to not trust her. In my head. Who did she think she was? Telling me everything would be okay and not to worry. She has never been homeless. She had a place to live at the end of next month. She was supposed to tell the realtor that we wanted to put an offer on a house. But she didn’t. She said she did. But she didn’t. Instead she looked at another house without me. I hated her. Every inch of her pretty lying ass. Of course she looked at a house without me, she doesn’t even want to be with me. She’s only with me because she’s afraid of what I’ll do if she leaves. She’s only waiting until my medicine is working and she’s going to leave. Fucking bitch.
The truth, though, is similar but not the same. I do resent her for telling me not to worry because she has never been homeless, she doesn’t know what it’s like. I do resent her for not putting an offer on the house I thought we wanted. It turns out though that she, even though she said she did, did not want to live there. I do resent her for looking at another house, that we apparently are putting an offer on if it’s not a foreclosure, without me. But I do not believe she’s only with me because she’s afraid of what I’ll do if she leaves. I do not believe she’s only waiting for an opportune time to leave. I do not hate her. I do believe that everything will be okay despite my intense worry about becoming homeless again. There are too many tiny lives that depend on me to keep them safe to allow myself to be in that situation again. Things will be okay though, I know that.
As I laid there, in the midst of my battle, I wished I could write. If I had moved, if I had dared to sit up and try to document the chaos of my episode I would have fought with her. I knew I didn’t want to do that. Winning that battle, if one could even say there is a winner, had to be done as a solo act. But I wished I could write and share my thoughts and emotions as I was having them instead of recounting them and dressing myself in guilt for even have experienced them. Not that I feel as though I censor my memories but perhaps I would to save her from being hurt by what I write, by what I thought.
Fact is, even though there may not be much, I love her with every untainted ounce of me.
WARNING: THE FOLLOWING PARAGRAPHS CONTAIN TRIGGERS FOR SELF-HARM AND EATING DISORDERS. PLEASE STOP READING IF YOU ARE IN THE MIDDLE OF EITHER OF THESE ADDICTIONS.
Last Wednesday I relapsed. Technically.
I do not prefer to cut with a knife. Maybe I’m lazy or just haven’t found the right one but I have never liked working with a knife. But because I hadn’t eaten in a couple of days and I was way out of control with my emotions I couldn’t manage to break apart a razor to take the blades to use. Also not a favorite but it’s close enough in a squeeze. I found a knife in the kitchen and took it to the bathroom. It served its purpose and I immediately calmed down enough to climb in bed and fall to sleep quickly. The only part of it I enjoyed was the color of my blood against my almost too-white skin, it was beautiful. They weren’t deep enough, I barely seen the fatty white. Bitch ass scratches. I’m so worthless I can’t even do this right any more. The next couple of days I found the pinky-red swollen scratches very attractive on my fat thigh. I wanted to take a picture of how pretty it was. The way it burned and hurt was almost enough to make up for the fact that it was the weakest cut I’ve ever done.
That road isn’t a place I’m willing to travel down again. It had been four years since I had done anything. The last one was nine stitches and left a fat, flat tuna colored scar. I know exactly how hard it is to overcome the need to cut. The thing that made me realize I needed to stop before was how no matter how deep I went it was never enough any more. I was going to end up dead. That is still a possibility if I start again. But I want to, so bad. Getting away with it wouldn’t be hard. It would stop a lot of fights. I know what I’m doing. I will not allow myself to go there again but there’s still a little voice echoing inside reminding me how fucking great it feels. My voice right behind it reminding me how guilty I would feel.
My tiny white pills have seemed to take away my appetite. At first I thought I wasn’t hungry because I was upset but even in my moments of okay when I can laugh and don’t feel like dying, I’m not hungry. This has given birth to the urge to lose weight. A lot of weight. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. I’m a little chubby at one hundred and thirty five pounds at my heaviest time of day and standing only five feet three inches. A little weight off wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world. I love laying in bed and running my hand over my stomach and not feeling so much of it. Giving my ribs little pep talks, telling them it’s okay if they want to come out and show themselves. Running my fingers over my collar bone that has began to protrude a bit. These are unhealthy thoughts. This is an unhealthy thing. And I know it. It’ll be impossible for me to dive head first into an eating disorder right now. My girlfriend is already constantly on me about eating. I just had to date a fit chick.
These are unwell thoughts and I’m aware of that. I have been completely honest with my girlfriend about them. I will not act on them. I am not in danger. I am safe. Recovery is still my main goal and the determination is still strong. I know that acting on these thoughts will only make recovering that much harder. I have already beaten both of these issues before, I will not allow myself to become a victim to them again.
We will be okay, one day.